Sometimes friendships grow in a strange way. There seems to be mountains and valleys to pass. At one moment your boyfriend may seems very doting, apparently thinking about you every minute. The next moment he will appear to have forgotten all about you, and you will wonder whether he still feels the same way towards you.
The main problem comes from the different ways in which men and women view communication. While we will be quick at letting our feelings be known and get very close to those we are emotionally attached to, the case is almost opposite for the men. When they are feeling their heartstrings being pulled, many men will hardly show it at the initial stages. They are likely to appear to be pulling off instead.
A major area that usually suffers from such reaction is communication through phone calls. While we enjoy communicate with the guys a number of times every single day, the case is different with them. So before you mess things up, you should be aware of how to handle the situation.
Don't call
It is natural for you to experience an urge to pick up the phone and call your boyfriend. This seems to be the best course of action. Unfortunately, things are usually not as straight forward as they appear. You risk giving a very wrong impression of yourself. While you will just be expressing your heartfelt love for him, you may appear to be quite desperate for affection. An important guideline is not to be quick on the phone.
Don't wait for his call either
Men will generally use the phone fairly often during the initial stages of your relationship as they ask you for a date. He is likely to call simply to say you were on his mind. However, when he is assured that you are already deeply involved with him, he will not call as frequently as he used to.
Since you have already known that you should avoid calling your boyfriend, should you just sit around waiting for him to call? No. Go on with your normal life without closing yourself up. If he really cares about you, he will call.
Make him miss you
As you go on with your life, you will in turn give your boyfriend ample space. When there is such a space between you, he will miss you and then he will pick up the phone.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Friday, January 22, 2010
Should I Call Him? Tips on How to Call Your Man
It seems that as time goes by, the practice of dating is getting more and more tricky. While we live in a world of advanced Information Technology, there are numerous tacit rules that you have to abide by in order to be on the right side. There are currently plenty of rules regarding 'should I call him', when you may call your man, and even how to go about it.
The phone is nowadays much more than just a mode of communication, entrenching itself as a very crucial component of the dating system.
Demonstrate independence
As a general rule, you are not the one who should take the initiative to call your man. While you may have gone out on a memorable date with a man, it is advisable that you should not pick up the phone to call him. This in itself is a great way of communicating. This will help you to demonstrate your independence, showing that you are not craving for attention. This in turn shows that you are worthy of pursuit. And that is what men enjoy doing.
As we have seen, the phone does more than just passing the message across. The men at times use the phone as a tool of manipulation. It also acts as some kind of a testing gauge. Your man may not call you in order to gauge how you react to his apparent lack of attention.
When you rush into finding out why he is lost, he will become even more assured that you are deeply involved in the relationship, which will just make him relax even more.
This means that when you would like to call your man, stop. Don't do it. Wait for him to find something of value to pursue in you instead. This requires a great deal of patience, but then as the saying goes - patience pays.
Although there are special cases when calling a man you're dating, be cautious. You may end up driving him away.
The phone is nowadays much more than just a mode of communication, entrenching itself as a very crucial component of the dating system.
Demonstrate independence
As a general rule, you are not the one who should take the initiative to call your man. While you may have gone out on a memorable date with a man, it is advisable that you should not pick up the phone to call him. This in itself is a great way of communicating. This will help you to demonstrate your independence, showing that you are not craving for attention. This in turn shows that you are worthy of pursuit. And that is what men enjoy doing.
As we have seen, the phone does more than just passing the message across. The men at times use the phone as a tool of manipulation. It also acts as some kind of a testing gauge. Your man may not call you in order to gauge how you react to his apparent lack of attention.
When you rush into finding out why he is lost, he will become even more assured that you are deeply involved in the relationship, which will just make him relax even more.
This means that when you would like to call your man, stop. Don't do it. Wait for him to find something of value to pursue in you instead. This requires a great deal of patience, but then as the saying goes - patience pays.
Although there are special cases when calling a man you're dating, be cautious. You may end up driving him away.
Monday, January 18, 2010
3 Simple Steps in Setting a Man's Love on Fire
While it may seem to you that some women have the unique ability of attracting men with hardly any effort on their part, the fact is that these women have simple developed the art. Hence they know how to draw the men without seeming to do anything. You can as well develop such enviable characteristics when you take the time.
So long as you know how to go about it, you will find that you won't have to try to imitate some model in order to make a man burn with love towards you. There are basically 3 things that you need to bear in mind when this is your goal.
1. Develop a strong personality
You should have a strong and attractive personality if you want to draw the man of your dreams. In fact, such a personality will help you to make a success of your life in general in whatever endeavor you are engaged.
When you would like to make that special guy love you, you should enjoy life, have fun, and be confident and motivated. You will feel good yourself and you will diffuse the positive feeling around you, hence he will love being in your company.
2. Make him comfortable
You should not expect any man to enjoy being with you when they find no comfort in the company. However, when you make the man feel great being close to you, he will take deliberate measures to keep you company. He will start thinking of you when he arranges some of his programs. Let him smile and have a good time. Strike a good balance of fun and seriousness, which will make him feel at ease and be able to share some parts of his life. This brings us to the third important measure.
3. Take the time to know him better
At the beginning of your relationship, you should flirt with him as you try to get to know him better. However much you are attracted to him, you should take time before getting into deeper commitments with him.
This calls for commitment and discipline. Lay out your plan and see it through without giving up along the way. Good things are worth fighting for.
So long as you know how to go about it, you will find that you won't have to try to imitate some model in order to make a man burn with love towards you. There are basically 3 things that you need to bear in mind when this is your goal.
1. Develop a strong personality
You should have a strong and attractive personality if you want to draw the man of your dreams. In fact, such a personality will help you to make a success of your life in general in whatever endeavor you are engaged.
When you would like to make that special guy love you, you should enjoy life, have fun, and be confident and motivated. You will feel good yourself and you will diffuse the positive feeling around you, hence he will love being in your company.
2. Make him comfortable
You should not expect any man to enjoy being with you when they find no comfort in the company. However, when you make the man feel great being close to you, he will take deliberate measures to keep you company. He will start thinking of you when he arranges some of his programs. Let him smile and have a good time. Strike a good balance of fun and seriousness, which will make him feel at ease and be able to share some parts of his life. This brings us to the third important measure.
3. Take the time to know him better
At the beginning of your relationship, you should flirt with him as you try to get to know him better. However much you are attracted to him, you should take time before getting into deeper commitments with him.
This calls for commitment and discipline. Lay out your plan and see it through without giving up along the way. Good things are worth fighting for.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Commitment Phobic Men - Dating Tips for Women
Many of us who are in dating relationships with men are interested in seeing the relationships developing into something more serious. Hence one of the main things that concern us is how we can influence commitment phobic men to want to commit. This is particularly important if your boyfriend does not seem prepared to move to the next level.
There are a number of simple measures that you can take to help your commitment phobic men to consider walking down the aisle with you. However, here is where many of us make major blunders. So, let's see how you can avoid the common mistakes.
Don't make it obvious
Given that we are usually very open to sharing our feelings, you may think that it is only reasonable for you to make commitment phobic men know of how you would wish to be a mother of his kids. Unfortunately, this method tends to backfire, as the guy may just withdraw further into his cocoon.
There are basically two reasons why this approach does not bring the desired results. First of all, most men do not like to be pushed into things, and this is the impression you will create. Your boyfriend is therefore more likely to become defensive and resist your efforts.
The second reason why this method does not work is because it will create a great sense of comfort in your boyfriend. He will know that no matter how long it takes, you won't walk out of the relationship and leave him. Hence, he won't see the need of taking things fast.
So, if you want your boyfriend to take the issue of commitment seriously, do not talk about it in the first place. In fact, you should not even give some kind of clue, such as by leaving bridal magazines where he is bound to find them.
Focus on yourself
You need to think more on individual terms, rather than viewing the two of you as a couple. Even when you are making arrangements for things that you would otherwise do together, plan to do them on your own.
You will get the attention of your commitment phobic boyfriend when you show your independence. Let the men realize that you have your own life that you have to consider.
In this way, he will realize that if he does not get serious then he risks losing you. Unless your boyfriend is not concerned about you, he will take things to the next level.
In addition to these, there are several other particular measures you can take to ensure that you secure the man of your dreams.
There are a number of simple measures that you can take to help your commitment phobic men to consider walking down the aisle with you. However, here is where many of us make major blunders. So, let's see how you can avoid the common mistakes.
Don't make it obvious
Given that we are usually very open to sharing our feelings, you may think that it is only reasonable for you to make commitment phobic men know of how you would wish to be a mother of his kids. Unfortunately, this method tends to backfire, as the guy may just withdraw further into his cocoon.
There are basically two reasons why this approach does not bring the desired results. First of all, most men do not like to be pushed into things, and this is the impression you will create. Your boyfriend is therefore more likely to become defensive and resist your efforts.
The second reason why this method does not work is because it will create a great sense of comfort in your boyfriend. He will know that no matter how long it takes, you won't walk out of the relationship and leave him. Hence, he won't see the need of taking things fast.
So, if you want your boyfriend to take the issue of commitment seriously, do not talk about it in the first place. In fact, you should not even give some kind of clue, such as by leaving bridal magazines where he is bound to find them.
Focus on yourself
You need to think more on individual terms, rather than viewing the two of you as a couple. Even when you are making arrangements for things that you would otherwise do together, plan to do them on your own.
You will get the attention of your commitment phobic boyfriend when you show your independence. Let the men realize that you have your own life that you have to consider.
In this way, he will realize that if he does not get serious then he risks losing you. Unless your boyfriend is not concerned about you, he will take things to the next level.
In addition to these, there are several other particular measures you can take to ensure that you secure the man of your dreams.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Your Boyfriend - Make Him Commit to You
Many of us who have dated men will tell you that one of the most frustrating aspects of dating is trying to make a guy think of going a step further than just dating. An unfortunately high numberof men are disappointingly reluctant when it comes to making commitment. The problem is not really that influencing our male friends is difficult, but that we tend to go about it the wrong way.
Many women confront their boyfriends with the issue of commitment, letting them know in no uncertain terms that they should either get serious or else ... Unfortunately; this method of issuing ultimatum tends to backfire more often than not. Rather than encourage your boyfriend to decide to make a commitment, he is more likely to pull out of the relationship instead.
Pull back
However, if you have been guilty of this problem, you should not despair. You can still get the attention of your boyfriend by pulling back a bit from your relationship. Such a change of attitude will not go unnoticed, and he will wonder why.
Make individual plans
Once you have stopped talking about commitment, you should avoid organizing your life around your relationship. Rather, make your relationship fit into your personal schedules. You can plan to go out with your girlfriends or even on a vacation somewhere far from him.
Don't try to push him
When many of us are in relationships where we are really in love with our boyfriends, we tend to think that we should urge them into making more serious commitments. Hence many women will constantly talk about their expectations of the future, including such delicate matters as the kids they would like to have and when.
Unfortunately, this is more likely to make your boyfriend feel that you are pressing him to a corner. As a result, he will instinctively go to his defense, thereby putting a lot of resistance. You should not expect to win such a struggle. And even if you could, there's very little chance of receiving happiness from such a relationship.
You will be better off not dealing with the topic of marriage at all in your discussions with your boyfriend.
Pull back
In order to make him commit, start by avoiding any topic that hints at marriage as you talk with your boyfriend. Not only that. Stop any discussions that deal with the future as much as you can.
Make individual plans
Friday, January 8, 2010
Make Him Yours - Here's the Secret That Works!
One of the greatest challenges that we often encounter as women is dealing with boyfriends who get stuck at the dating stage while we are looking for a stronger commitment. Sadly, it is a blatant lie to say that there is a magic formula that we can use to cast a spell on such stubborn guys and make him yours. We are usually left feeling that we are more in love with the boyfriends than they are with us.
If you find yourself in such a position, is there anything you can do in order to change the direction of your relationship? The fact is that there are actually many things that you can do in order to take control of the situation. Here are some tips that will help you to change your boyfriend and make him yours.
Let him be free
Freedom is one of the greatest things that men cherish. Hence if you give the impression that your company will stifle his freedom then you will just alienate him. Please note that this is not the same as encouraging him to move with other women or taking it for granted when he does.
When your boyfriend realizes that your company will not rob him of his freedom then he will be more inclined to take your hand in marriage.
Give him special treats
Here's another great way how to make him yours. That is give him special treats every once in a while. Take note of his interests and make arrangements to share them with him. Don't just make the arrangements only to let him meet the necessary expenses - take care of everything. Learn how to make him feel special and great and you will win his heart.
Listen to him
You should learn to pay close attention to your boyfriend and accommodate his suggestions. Evaluate your relationship in warm discussions where you welcome his contributions. Be open to areas where he would like to see some necessary adjustments in you. This will let him know that you care a great deal about him, and he will be encouraged to become your soul mate.
These are just a few of the numerous things you can do in order to change your boyfriend into your soul mate and make him yours. If you know in your heart that he is the one you would like to establish a lasting commitment with, you do not have to wait for him to feel the same way too. Such steps will help him to get crazy over you. Your relationship does not have to be a matter of chance.
If you find yourself in such a position, is there anything you can do in order to change the direction of your relationship? The fact is that there are actually many things that you can do in order to take control of the situation. Here are some tips that will help you to change your boyfriend and make him yours.
Let him be free
Freedom is one of the greatest things that men cherish. Hence if you give the impression that your company will stifle his freedom then you will just alienate him. Please note that this is not the same as encouraging him to move with other women or taking it for granted when he does.
When your boyfriend realizes that your company will not rob him of his freedom then he will be more inclined to take your hand in marriage.
Give him special treats
Here's another great way how to make him yours. That is give him special treats every once in a while. Take note of his interests and make arrangements to share them with him. Don't just make the arrangements only to let him meet the necessary expenses - take care of everything. Learn how to make him feel special and great and you will win his heart.
Listen to him
You should learn to pay close attention to your boyfriend and accommodate his suggestions. Evaluate your relationship in warm discussions where you welcome his contributions. Be open to areas where he would like to see some necessary adjustments in you. This will let him know that you care a great deal about him, and he will be encouraged to become your soul mate.
These are just a few of the numerous things you can do in order to change your boyfriend into your soul mate and make him yours. If you know in your heart that he is the one you would like to establish a lasting commitment with, you do not have to wait for him to feel the same way too. Such steps will help him to get crazy over you. Your relationship does not have to be a matter of chance.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
How to Read Man's Body Language
Are you going out with a man? You will be interested in knowing where he places your relationship. Is he serious or merely flirting with you? Well, you can determine this by reading a man's body language. This is possible even you have not yet dated the guy you are interested in. There are a number of areas of a man's body that will give you the message that he does not share verbally. For instance, you can learn a lot from the manner in which he speaks with you and how he looks at you.
1. It has been known since time immemorial that the eyes will reveal the real truth that lurks in the heart. The expression on the guy's face will tell you a great deal about how he truly feels about you, and you should pay close attention to it. For instance, if his eyebrows get raised as he looks at you and he gives a look of surprise before his gaze wonders to other things, this is a strong indication that he likes you.
2. In case he is not close to you, the man may try to get your attention by moving away from the crowd. He may as well make a number of gestures that are meant to make you notice him.
3. If he is close enough, pay close attention to his nostrils. If they get slightly larger as he looks at you, and his mouth also falls slightly open, this shows that you look very attractive in his sight. This is something that happens for just a few moments and it may pass your attention if you do not watch him closely.
4. The way he stands and his movements will help you to determine if he likes you. For instance, is his head tilted? Does he rub his cheeks and chin? Is he smoothing his tie? These are signs through which the guy may try to impress you.
5. He will try to get closer to you and strike up a conversation. Also, in order to get your attention, the guy may give a hearty laughter.
6. However, you should watch out when a man attempts to talk to you at all costs. When he talks very sweetly to you even though you are not familiar, he is flirting.
7. If he tries to get too close to you and even touch you while you've not been dating, beware. A man is also flirting when he seems very concerned about you even though you do not really know him. He may even buy you some flowers. Watch out.
8. The way he stares at you may again tell you to back off, particularly when he acts in a jerky manner.
The man's body language will help you to determine whether he likes you, or perhaps you are just a tool to boost his ego among his friends.
1. It has been known since time immemorial that the eyes will reveal the real truth that lurks in the heart. The expression on the guy's face will tell you a great deal about how he truly feels about you, and you should pay close attention to it. For instance, if his eyebrows get raised as he looks at you and he gives a look of surprise before his gaze wonders to other things, this is a strong indication that he likes you.
2. In case he is not close to you, the man may try to get your attention by moving away from the crowd. He may as well make a number of gestures that are meant to make you notice him.
3. If he is close enough, pay close attention to his nostrils. If they get slightly larger as he looks at you, and his mouth also falls slightly open, this shows that you look very attractive in his sight. This is something that happens for just a few moments and it may pass your attention if you do not watch him closely.
4. The way he stands and his movements will help you to determine if he likes you. For instance, is his head tilted? Does he rub his cheeks and chin? Is he smoothing his tie? These are signs through which the guy may try to impress you.
5. He will try to get closer to you and strike up a conversation. Also, in order to get your attention, the guy may give a hearty laughter.
6. However, you should watch out when a man attempts to talk to you at all costs. When he talks very sweetly to you even though you are not familiar, he is flirting.
7. If he tries to get too close to you and even touch you while you've not been dating, beware. A man is also flirting when he seems very concerned about you even though you do not really know him. He may even buy you some flowers. Watch out.
8. The way he stares at you may again tell you to back off, particularly when he acts in a jerky manner.
The man's body language will help you to determine whether he likes you, or perhaps you are just a tool to boost his ego among his friends.
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