Thursday, March 17, 2011

Getting Your Boyfriend Back Advice

There is a lot of advice on getting your boyfriend back that you can find, some of it is good but most of it is lame. Does it really sound like a good idea to beg him to take you back? It doesn't sound good to me.

Other people will advise you to play games and try to make him jealous and though that may work, do you really want a relationship based on jealousy? Before you say you don't care remember that this type of relationship will not last. As soon as your guy knows he has you back or as soon as the old problems start to surface again your relationship will be over, again.

Without resorting to games, trickery or even love spells how about just apologizing for what you did wrong? Sounds simple doesn't it? Now, I'm not suggesting that the whole breakup was your fault, but more than likely you did one or two things wrong. It can't hurt to apologize for that.

Another benefit of acknowledging your mistakes is that it will give you a chance to make changes. That way if you and your guy do get back together you won't just repeat the same mistakes all over again and continue to cause each other pain.

That one piece of advice on getting your boyfriend back is good even if the two of you fail to reunite. At least you will know what things not to do in your next relationship. Either way, you win if you take the time to figure out your mistakes and make changes.

When you do contact him to apologize, keep it short and sweet. Tell him you realize you made some mistakes and that you are truly sorry for any pain you may have caused him.

Do not make it a production: no crying or begging. And do not expect him to immediately take you back, right on the spot. He will most likely not. But he may think about it for a while and decide that based on the 'new' more mature you that he would like to give things a second try.

If he doesn't immediately take you back, give him space. Don't contact him for a while. Let him have time to think things over and decide for himself what he wants to do. If you pester him you will most likely just make the situation worse.

During this period, don't sit by the phone and wait for his call. Live your life. Do something to make you feel really good about yourself, and making yourself look really hot can't hurt either. Spend time with friends. Do not just sit around and worry, that will make time seem to go much more slowly.

If you follow this advice on getting your boyfriend back you will stand a much better chance of being successful than if you choose to follow the advice that suggests you play games and try to make him jealous. It's up to you, good luck.

Monday, March 14, 2011

Simple Relationship Rescue Techniques

Wouldn't it be great if all relationships were happy all of the time? Maybe, but we all live in the real world, and that means we often face real problems. Sure, they may start off really well, and the two of you are so in love that it's amazing, but then things start to change. The novelty starts to wear off, and before you know it you're looking for relationship rescue methods in the hopes of staying together. If any of this sounds familiar, then you are not alone. The good news is that there are plenty of things you can do, as you will see.

The most important thing for you to realize is that your relationship is worth rescuing. If you disagree with this, then you need to find out why. What other things are going on? Why aren't you so sure about making things better? If there is something holding you back, you will need to fix that first before you move on to working things out. From here on out we will talk as though you truly want to improve as a couple.

Taking each other for granted is one of the biggest threats to having a strong relationship. However, this pattern can be hard to detect because, well, you're taking things for granted. The way to combat this is to take a step back and look at things objectively. Then try to put yourself in your partner's shoes and ask yourself how you would react to your behavior if you were them. Also, do your best to stop taking them for granted. Don't assume anything about their motives or feelings, but at the same appreciate the things they do.

You will need to reopen the lines of communication. If they were never really open, then you will have to learn how to talk to each other in a healthy way. This can be difficult, but you can learn how to do it with practice. The small investment you make in learning how to talk to each other will pay off in a big way in the long run; besides, it sure beats arguing all the time.

A really good relationship rescue technique is to live as though each day could be the last one you will ever spend with your partner. When you do this, all of those little things that annoy you won't really matter. You will have a new appreciation for what you have, and you will focus much less on the negative things. Doing this will put the two of you on the right track to being a healthy couple.

Remember, you do not have to accept a bad relationship. You can use relationship rescue techniques to make things better. It may not always be easy, especially if you have had a lot of time to develop bad habits as a couple, but it will be more than worth it when the two of you are happy again.
 
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